On a personal note: Bonny and David Morley

David and Bonny Morley attend 2011 Advocacy Day in Sacramento

When Saratoga, Calif. resident Bonny Morley was just 16 years old, she began learning to quilt. What started as a hobby grew into a lifelong passion – she has created more than 100 quilts over her lifetime. She still spends hours stitching away every day, but the size of the quilts has become a bit smaller and she’s started making her marks using pencil instead of marker. Bonny was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in 2008.

“I call them quilt-lets,” she says. “They aren’t very large and sometimes I can’t quite remember the right process. But this gives me the most pleasure.”

Bonny and her husband David have been married for 47 years. Throughout their marriage, they have enjoyed several road trips together with David at the wheel and Bonny serving as navigator.

But in July 2007 on a trip to the Pacific Northwest, David noticed something was different. They were driving on the highway when he asked Bonny which exit to take.

“She couldn’t do it,” he recalls. “She was not able to read the map. She could always do it before and then she couldn’t. It was then that I started to focus and look for more changes. One thing led to another and she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s on Christmas Eve the following year.”

Bonny had always been very independent, first working as a school teacher and then as an interior designer. However, since the diagnosis, she has become increasingly dependent on David as she is no longer able to drive. Bonny is clearly thankful for what she calls David’s devotion.

“David is very compassionate. He doesn’t scold me even when I am scolding myself,” says Bonny. “But that is how David is with everyone and everything. He’s always willing to help everybody and makes an effort to reach out to anyone in need.”

Indeed, David is involved in several community organizations. Although the demands of caring for Bonny have grown, he makes it a priority to continue his commitments to all of them, including his church, as president of a nonprofit foundation and a member of a barbershop quartet and chorus.

“It’s a balancing act between caregiving and doing all the activities, but I get help from our two sons who live close and help as much as possible.” says David.

David and Bonny attend an Alzheimer’s Association Early Stage support group, where they are able to share stories and learn from others in their situation.

“I think the group I’m in is phenomenal – all of the people have so much information,” says Bonny. “I can listen and talk – and I like to talk a lot!”

Bonny’s willingness to talk about having the disease is part of what drove the couple to take part in Advocacy Day in Sacramento.

“Bonny is very open to talking about the disease and talking about the issues,” says David. “I say if we can help, let’s do it and she feels the same way.”

David also has become a resource for people in his community who have questions about memory loss in loved ones. He advises first and foremost that people seek a correct diagnosis.

“There are some things that can help if you get it early enough, and there might be other causes of memory loss so a diagnosis has to be a first step,” he says. “And if there is a diagnosis, get support. There’s so much to learn from other people – and the more you learn the more you’ll be ready to handle tough situations.”

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6 Responses

  1. Diana Aldrich says:

    I know Dave and Bonny and consider it a great honor to be part of their journey. Bonny is so gracious in her sharing; Dave is a great support to, not just Bonny, but to those who may find themselves walking a similar path.

  2. Leanne Wiese says:

    Remarkable people do remarkable things but Bonny and Dave not only continue being remarkable people but continue being so in the face of thier life’s tough challenge. They possess extraordinary spirits of devotion and commitment and are the kind of people most of us want to grow up to be.

  3. Ann and Dick McFarland says:

    “Dave & Bonny are wonderful people.
    We are fortunate to have them in our lives.”
    Dick & Ann McFarland

  4. Lucille Dean says:

    Today is my birthday. Bonny and David are fellow dragons, but we’re really big pussy cats. Bonny is my quilting mentor and David makes it all possible!

  5. Carol Hill Olmstead says:

    The Morleys have been wonderful role models, mild mannered, happy, responsible and faithful to all of their life commitments since I met them in the 1980’s. March 31, 2011, I said my last “goodbye” to my mother, Florence Hill, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 1996. As accomplished and caring as Mother has been, receiving many well earned honors for her volunteer efforts in countless community activities during her lifetime, she was not so gracious as Bonny is during her decline with this disease. I hope to be supportive of Dave and Bonny as they move along this path, having walked it myself 3 times with other family members myself already.

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